I don’t necessarily believe in spiritual wonky bonkers shenanigans. I thought people who believed they could talk to the dead were frauds and psychics were just really intuitive people good at manipulation like a pick-up artist. However, after watching a few episodes of Long Island Medium and a recent series of events – I think I may have officially changed my mind.
My boyfriend and I just returned from a weekend in Sedona. Although we went for wine tastings, we stayed in Sedona for the metaphysical vortexes. Okay, so we actually stayed there just because it was close to the wine – but we couldn’t leave without visiting a psychic at the psychic fair (aka I dragged him to it). We initially went for a couples’ reading to see how the spirits viewed the “relationship” for giggles. But we both went into the readings (psychics and tarot cards) with open minds and hearts and came out jaws wide open, shocked by how dead-on some of their readings were. It seemed like they could look right through us and see things we couldn’t show them with our bravest poker faces on. After introducing him to the metaphysical realm, I wanted to give you some tips for your first adventure into the wacky world of psychics and beyond.
Know the types of psychics
There are a ton of different types of metaphysical fun times, from psychic mediums with specialties in past life regressions, to palm or aura readings, to tarot cards. Each one will help you understand the past, present, and future. If I had to recommend one, I’d go the route of the psychic medium. I’ve gone to a few before and have found them very insightful. Plus, I give them kudos for going off of nothing besides just my “energy.” I got my tarot cards done at a walk-in, and the reading was amazingly spot-on. However, since I was the one in charge of cutting the deck and selecting the cards, it seems more luck-of-the-draw than a real ability. And no, I don’t count the Psychic Friends Network – it’s clearly a hoax. Just like every 900 number out there. Unless it’s 30 Rock’s 1-900-OKFACE.
Look for the legit ones
It’s not a joke, I look for the “legit” psychics. These are the ones who have awesome resumes, especially working with law enforcement on unsolved crimes. I also look for people who have been doing it for 20+ years, because if they’re not homeless after 20 years of being a fraud, they deserve my money. I like people who have studied a lot. Granted, I don’t know what any of these schools are, or what any of their certificates mean, but I like a beefy background.
Open your heart chakra
My first psychic turned me down. I came in, she tried to read me, and said that I wasn’t open enough to the process to be read. She told me to think about what I wanted, to open myself to the process and come back. I returned a week later, more open to the idea, and she read me like an open book. Be respectful to them and go in with an open mind and spirit. Only then can you fully participate in the process.
Formulate your questions ahead of time
It’s difficult to cover everything about your past, present, and future all within a half an hour. Go in ready to focus on one or two topics, with a few big questions. They’ll ask why you came in, and it can be a great place to start if you have areas of your life you want to focus on. Sometimes a psychic will start off talking about romance, but pick up aspects of your health, career, and family along the way. At the end, they’ll ask if you have any questions about your reading. Have them prepared to maximize your time.
Understand the fees upfront
Readings can be fun, but pretty expensive. I’ve been charged $80 for a 30-minute reading to $40 for a 20-minute tarot reading. You can spend hundreds of dollars for hour-long readings, so know ahead of time! You can go in and request an allotted time for the reading, but you might get stiffed on the juicy details. If you want to be a cheapskate, you can buy the Aura iPhone app for $1.99. Let me tell you, the results will give you what you pay for.
Some psychics will suggest you take notes. My medium even gave me an audio recording of the reading to look back on afterwards. Find some way to remember all the details of the reading. Some things don’t make sense until days, months, or years after the reading, especially the future predictions.
Develop a Poker Face
The skeptic in me tells me all of this is bullhonkey. So I try not to give too much of myself away at the reading, just in case they’re just really intuitive people going off of my body language instead of any real talent. Don’t reveal too much about yourself until they’ve nailed something about you and they’re asking for more. You’ll feel better about the reading if you don’t give it all away.
You’re still in charge
My medium reminded me that the spirit guides and their predictions are merely suggestions for the future. Even if you turned over the worst card, or got a terrible reading, remember that it’s all up to you, your fate, and your personal choices. Don’t get down after a negative reading; just do everything to change it all for the better.
So I’m ending this article how my medium ends her sessions, with the Native American word “Aho” (another word for “amen,” although she could have been swearing at me in Japanese for all I knew). May you and your spirit guide prosper in health, harmony, and happiness!